But I know a lot of people who are. Or for half-marathons, triathlons, 5Ks, boxing matches, black belts, and body building competitions…you name it, people are training for it! And sometimes it feels like I must be the only one out there who doesn’t want to compete!
I was reading a blog post by Tara over at 263 And Counting about her decision to stick with her half-marathon training and not go for the full.
In it she wrote this:
“For three days I lost sleep, I didn’t eat and I gained three pounds due to the stress of actually thinking I could do it. At the end of those three days I realized something important: This wasn’t fun anymore.”
“I like the idea of being the distraught fat girl comes back to save the world theory but this is not the time nor the place.”
“I need this journey to be slow paced enough for me to learn what works and to examine what doesn’t work. I need this journey to be about pushing boundaries and setting goals that are not only attainable but also achievable in a safe manner.”
The next part of my post isn’t addressed to Tara specifically, but to all of you DFGs out there who might be thinking, “hmmm…maybe I should start running…”
To be honest, I think too many of us DFGs like to jump on certain fitness bandwagons because we see all the glory and high-fives and “you go girl”s that others are getting and we want it too. And it appears, somehow, that running a race is an easy way to get it, whether it be a 5K or a marathon.
I think a lot of DFGs set themselves up for unintended, unimagined consequences when they decide they should push themselves that hard and intensely. I know a lot of DFGs who think (consciously or unconsciously) that training for and running a marathon will make them skinny. It’s in the back of their minds the whole time.
I am not saying that all DFGs do this…but I did it and I see others doing it too.
Now, I am all for a challenge, fitness or otherwise. But it’s important to know what will really fill you up. It’s important to know what you *really* want…what fits your personality. We need to be sure of what we’re really after when we make a commitment to something as huge as running a marathon.
Part of my problem was that, for too long, I didn’t really know what I wanted. And so I went after other people’s goals and aspirations. I let other people’s dreams become mine. And I’ve been doing that for such a long time that I didn’t even realize it!
Now that I do know what fills me up, what makes me excited to get up in the morning and push myself, I know that I don’t have to use fitness to get the high-fives and “you go girl”s. For sure, I am exercising and loving my kettlebell and kickboxing workouts, but for me the glory is coming from something totally unrelated to weight loss or fitness. And it’s a beautiful thing.
Do you know what you REALLY want or are you letting someone else’s dream become yours?