Maybe I’m just in a mood, but I’m getting tired of all the how-to talk about there. You know what I’m talking about…
How To Approach Holiday Eating
Strategies For Weight Loss During The Holidays
10 Ways To Avoid Holiday Weight Gain
Holiday Weight Loss Tips
Weight Management Tips For Surviving The Feasting Season
And even this!!
How To Drop A Dress Size By Tonight
Is it just me or does all of this sound desperate? Does it make you feel relaxed and happy or worried and scared? With all the how to how to how to it’s no wonder we feel that we can’t trust ourselves. As if a list of tips we’ve seen a million times or more is going solve all our problems overnight, because after all, if we could just get skinny, or at least not gain an ounce over the holidays, then life would be perfect, right?
Don’t get me wrong…that used to be me. Food was the enemy and all I wanted was to look like a supermodel. I was either in the midst of that same desperation, white-knuckling it and trying to control myself or I was thinking, “You can’t control me! Bring on the food, what a great excuse to overeat.”
Either way, I was not enjoying myself or what I was eating. And all the “how to” lists in the world wouldn’t have made a difference.
It’s funny how food goes from being the center of the universe when we’re abusing it, to being the center of the universe when we’re trying to lose weight. But what if food isn’t the center of the universe? What if the way our bodies looked wasn’t as important as how our bodies felt…or how we felt about our bodies? This is what I always wanted to believe but felt wasn’t possible.
Until I found out that it is, indeed possible. And here’s the secret: it’s not about being in control, it’s about not needing to be in control.
I understand that I am not you. I get that you may wish and dream for different things than I do. I realize that the way my body looks and feels might now be how you want your body to look and feel. I get it.
But even so, what would it look like if you didn’t need control? What would you look like? How would you feel?
I realize that I am only an expert when it comes to what “works” for me, but I believe that this is possible for all of us. Rely on yourself. Have patience with yourself. Accept yourself. Trust your intuition and your intention. Relax. Breathe. And remember, anything done out of desperation usually backfires.
My wish for you above all else: peace.