According to the poet Rainer Maria Rilke, here’s what God says to each of us: “Go the limits of your longing . . . Flare up like flame and make big shadows that I can move in. Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.” Whether or not you’re on speaking terms with the Creator, this is excellent advice. It’s time to give everything you have and take everything you need. Hold nothing back and open yourself as wide and wild as you dare. Explore the feeling of having nothing to lose and expect the arrivals of useful surprises. ~ Rob Brezsney’s Freewill Astrology for Scorpio (but seriously, take this advice no matter what sign you are!)
Last week I felt both beauty (which isn’t really an emotion, but let’s pretend it is) and terror. Beauty for having completed my book (and the accompanying workbook!)…and, oddly enough, terror for the same reason.
Here’s how it went down:
Circumstance: I got the final manuscript for final proofing, and some favorable advance reviews.
Thoughts: How exciting…and how wonderful that people like it and are getting something out of it! My words will help others!
Emotions: heart-swelling gratitude, pride, and excitement (“beauty”).
From there I took action: I went over the manuscript to make sure it was complete, I tackled some technology that needed to be put into place prior to the book launch, emptied the dishwasher (with a smile on my face), prepped dinner, danced around the living room, held a one-minute plank (you get the idea).
Actions: I know better than to do anything important when I feel terror (or dread), although I briefly considered canceling publication of the book. I sat down at my computer and started scrolling endlessly through Facebook. I shut myself down.
At first the thoughts weren’t available to me.
I took a deep breath. Unlocked my shoulders. Softened my eyes. I let the terror vibrate in my body.
Thoughts (which are very, very old): I’ve been a very bad girl and I’m going to get into BIG trouble.
The circumstance was the same and yet I had such conflicting emotion. And isn’t THAT fascinating?
The only difference between beauty and terror were the thoughts I was thinking.
Since then I’ve chosen myriad other emotions because, as Rilke so aptly put it, “no feeling is final” and I am going to keep on going.
You have that kind of power too. You have the ability to choose thoughts that create beauty or terror in your life. In any given moment, you can choose to feel any emotion, simply by choosing thoughts that create that emotion.
This is what it means to create your life.
What are the top three emotions you choose on a regular basis?
P.S. The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother comes out NEXT WEEK!! Would you like to join me for the book launch party on September 1 at 6 p.m. (EST)? In addition to being able to download the book for free, there will be other authors with other free books, as well. Even if you can’t attend the webinar, you will get a recording and a bunch of extras just for signing up. Click here to register!