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Embracing Mastery, Part 2

I almost decided not to choose a word for 2013.

Then, because “practice” was such a good word for me in 2012, I almost decided to choose it again.

And then I decided to trust that the right word would come to me. And it did. At the last minute.

As I mentioned in Part 1, I wrote that post originally in September 2010 and entitled it, “Glimpsing Mastery.”

Now I am ready to embrace it. MASTERY is not only an extension of practice, it’s a deepening. Like practice, mastery is both a noun (“comprehensive knowledge or skill in a subject or accomplishment”) and verb-like (“the action or process of mastering a subject or accomplishment”).

To me, choosing to embrace mastery requires more…

commitment

courage

discernment…

…as well as slowing down and taking my time.

It requires me to have a learning attitude, rather than a know-it-all attitude.

I’ve had a tendency to glimpse rather than embrace, to let fear stop me, or to rush impatiently into whatever looked interesting, without knowing if it really suited me. And my fear often took on the appearance of knowing it all.

One does not gain mastery in that way.

I plan, of course, to become more masterful at the art and science of Acceptance Whispering. To that end I am currently about half way though Brooke Castillo’s Life Coach School and hope to be certified by March. What I love about this program is that it’s putting some much-needed structure around what I already believe and know to be true.

Along with that has come an evolution. While Acceptance Whispering started out as a way to make peace with food and our bodies, what I am finding – after having worked with two clients (not to mention my ongoing work with myself) – is that it’s REALLY about emotional mastery (there’s that word again), knowing that taking full responsibility for our emotional lives is what makes everything else possible.

Mastery of my thoughts and emotions is a permanent priority because I have proven to myself, time and time again, that anything else I may want only comes when I take full responsibility for what’s going on in my head.

This is something I really and truly learned – on a cellular level, deep in my bones – in 2012. I alone am responsible for my thoughts and feelings and NO ONE can make me think or feel anything, no matter what they say or do.

Of course I had heard this and understood it many times before, but in 2012, I GOT it. I learned how. And I realized that, just like so many other things, it’s not something you get once and can forget about. It does, indeed, require practice, in order to gain mastery.

Better late than never, eh?

Also, later this month I will be taking a more intensive Emotional Freedom Technique course. I (and my clients) have found that combining thought/feeling work with EFT is quite powerful.

On a more practical level, as I build my business, I am finding the need to master some things that, until now, I had purposely ignored…things like finances and technology. And thanks to my business mentor, Christine Kane (who, by the way, has a great Word Of The Year tool that you can download), I am getting educated in these areas.

And, it wouldn’t be my life if I wasn’t planning to continue mastering acceptance of my body and health. I’ve come a long way baby in this area but there’s always room for more.

I am looking forward to 2013 in a way that I’ve never looked forward  before.

Bring it!

 

21 Comments

  • Posted January 2, 2013 at 9:51 am | Permalink

    I have been doing a word for the year for 4 years now. Each time, I never know what word to chose. Then it finally hits me, so far each word has been the perfect one for that year. This year it is honesty/truth for me. I like Mastery. A very strong word with so many different angles to it.

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 2, 2013 at 12:51 pm | Permalink

      You’re right, it’s more like the right word comes to us, rather than us choosing it. Truth is an excellent word!

  • Posted January 2, 2013 at 10:05 am | Permalink

    What a great word, mastery! I look forward to seeing it ribboned through your posts for the next year.

    “Mastery of my thoughts and emotions is a permanent priority because I have proven to myself, time and time again, that anything else I may want only comes when I take full responsibility for what’s going on in my head.

    This is something I really and truly learned – on a cellular level, deep in my bones – in 2012. I alone am responsible for my thoughts and feelings and NO ONE can make me think or feel anything, no matter what they say or do.”

    I love this. It’s exactly what I needed to read/work on/practice and master.

    Happy New Year!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 2, 2013 at 12:51 pm | Permalink

      Thanks Roxie! In many ways you have been a role-model for me in this regard….

  • Posted January 2, 2013 at 11:05 am | Permalink

    I was angry there for a minute because I thought you had stolen my word for 2013, but I went back and checked and mine was “mustauchery”. Carry on!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 2, 2013 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

      Hey Jack…good to see you!

  • Posted January 2, 2013 at 11:53 am | Permalink

    Emotions are the root of so much I have learned that first hand in pretty much my whole life. Mastery is a really great word for the year. Now you have me thinking about a word for the year hmm.
    I got a kick out of Jack’s comment LOL

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 2, 2013 at 12:53 pm | Permalink

      This is the third year in a row that I’ve chosen a word and it’s been quite motivating!

  • Posted January 2, 2013 at 6:20 pm | Permalink

    Love this, Karen! And I was just thinking about mastery this afternoon, specifically this aspect: “I’ve had a tendency to glimpse rather than embrace, to let fear stop me, or to rush impatiently into whatever looked interesting, without knowing if it really suited me.” Now I’m trying to sort out which areas I need to embrace and which to leave to others for whom it is a passion or a calling.

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 2, 2013 at 8:40 pm | Permalink

      Yep…that’s where discernment comes into play :-)

    • Posted January 2, 2013 at 9:09 pm | Permalink

      This is the part that also most resonated with me. Brilliantly worded, Karen!

  • Posted January 3, 2013 at 12:46 pm | Permalink

    Great post! I too understood on a cellular level now it seems, that other people do not make me feel or do anything anymore. Or at least now I can shift it once I have the ugly feelings come up and allow them to go through and they do. I am challenging myself here and there, testing the waters of next steps. Finding out what my passions are.
    Here’s to a great 2013!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 4, 2013 at 9:35 am | Permalink

      Amen!

  • Posted January 3, 2013 at 11:10 pm | Permalink

    Mastery is a great word.

    On the acceptance whispering / life coach front, I think you know that I benefit in a range of aspects of my life from our sessions. In fact we rarely (never?) talk about food and dieting; occasionally about my mind/body disconnect and body image issues; instead much of what we talk about are those things impacting on my overall life and those I’m facing as I make some mammoth changes.

    I often describe you (to the uninitiated) as my life coach already!

    Deb

  • Posted January 4, 2013 at 3:22 am | Permalink

    I am also strangely excited about 2013. I think there is a lot of positive energy flowing through all of us right now.

    Mastery is a brilliant concept to work towards. I have no doubt that you will find it enriching and empowering.

    Thanks for reminding me of EFT – I can definitely benefit from that! I’ve only dabbled up to now, but I’m ready to apply it to more situations in my life.

  • KCLAnderson
    Posted January 4, 2013 at 9:36 am | Permalink

    Thanks Hanlie!

  • Posted January 4, 2013 at 2:56 pm | Permalink

    I have never thought of using words in such a meaningful and deliberate way when it comes to my life. You are awesome Karen!

  • Posted January 5, 2013 at 9:42 pm | Permalink

    Your posts make me think so much. I always wait to read until I have time! Learning so much from you Karen! Love your word!

    I need some “mastery” in tech & finances too!!!!

  • Posted January 6, 2013 at 11:19 pm | Permalink

    Mastery is a fine word and tool for 2013. Something that we can all learn from. I love the idea of having a word for the year. I am loving my word and action of ‘Gratitude’ for the first time this year. I will be doing this from now on.

  • Posted January 8, 2013 at 4:29 pm | Permalink

    “I alone am responsible for my thoughts and feelings and NO ONE can make me think or feel anything, no matter what they say or do”

    I’m writing that down and sticking it on on my mirror. I definitely need some “mastery” !!

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