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PRACTICING: Hateloss – Week 3

This week’s Hateloss Challenge exercise: between now and Thursday, think about an activity that would challenge your comfort zone. Then confront that fear and do it. This is your challenge, so be as daring or as conservative as you want – but stretch yourself beyond what you think you can do.

I’m stepping outside my comfort zone to make an announcement:

I’m giving up wheat/gluten.

BOTH choosing to give up wheat AND announcing it are, for me, an act of stepping outside my comfort zone.

And speaking of both/and statements, I had a HUGE ah-ha moment as it regards my comfort zone.

The other day, in my Practicing: Force post I said:

“Force yourself…outside your comfort zone” sets off alarm bells in Resistant Karen’s head. She doesn’t like to think about being forced anywhere, and most definitely not outside her comfort zone because she equates “comfort zone” with “healthy emotional boundaries.”

It took me 45 years to get my comfort zone/healthy emotional boundaries firmly in place and I’m NOT gonna let anything get in the way of that!

But what if I could BOTH establish and maintain my comfort zone AND step outside it? Or more specifically, what if there are several different zones of comfort, some of which are sacrosanct and meant to be protected and some of which are meant to be stepped out of?

I have the safety and security of a wonderful marriage to an amazing man who loves me unconditionally. I often marvel at what I was able to create for myself, given the examples I had growing up. This comfort zone is sacrosanct. I don’t have to step out of it.

Now that I know that and see the distinction, I feel more liberated and courageous! So getting back to my announcement…

No, I don’t have Celiac disease. I don’t even consider myself gluten-sensitive. But the other day, right after I watched Mel Robbin’s video on how to get what you want, I happened to come across an interview with Dr. William Davis (author of a book called Wheat Belly: Lose the Wheat, Lose the Weight, and Find Your Path Back to Health).

The interview is entitled, “On The Evils of Wheat: Dr. William Davis on why it is so addictive, and how shunning it will make you skinny.” 


That’s me rolling my eyes. It wasn’t necessary to use words like “evil” and “skinny” in order to get me to read the article, but that’s another issue for another day.

I read the article because I was interested in what he had to say about the affect of wheat on health and in particular, inflammation, which can cause or exacerbate all kinds of issues including arthritis, which I have.

With Mel Robbin’s voice still echoing in my head, I decided right then and there to go wheat-free in an effort to make my body hurt less so I feel like exercising more. And what’s interesting is that I had no idea that Week 3 of the Hateloss Challenge would involve a call to step outside my comfort zone! I love how the universe works…

So now I’m also practicing wheat-loss. I’ll keep you posted.


  • Posted January 19, 2012 at 6:04 pm | Permalink

    Wow!! Good for you, Karen. (I love how the universe works, too :) This is an exciting thing! You just might have a less painful life ahead of you by doing this, and I will be sending loads of light and love your way in the hopes that this gives your body exactly what it needs. Thank you for this.

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:28 pm | Permalink

      And thank you again Ellen for this challenge!

  • Posted January 19, 2012 at 6:57 pm | Permalink

    Love this Karen & you are doping it for health reasons, meaning your arthritis & not just because others are doing it. I don’t have probs but I am going to read this to see what it says! Can’t wait to hear more & how it makes you feel!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:33 pm | Permalink

      Thanks Jody…yeah, it’s amazing what you might try when you’re doing it from a place of neutral curiosity, and not from a place of self-loathing!

  • Posted January 19, 2012 at 7:26 pm | Permalink

    Off topic ~ whenever I see that picture I always read it as “HAT” loss.
    Please don’t lose your hat.
    It keeps your head warm.

  • Denise
    Posted January 19, 2012 at 11:24 pm | Permalink

    Good luck on giving up wheat–I did it over 2 years ago and it became immediately obvious to me that I would never be able to go back to it–after 3 days I felt like a fog had lifted: colors were brighter, music was more beautiful, I felt happier although nothing else in my life had changed. And I was still having cravings and withdrawal symptoms for another 3 or 4 days. It was so odd.

    But sadly, my joint pain continued to get worse. I had given up sugar and sweets years before, so I couldn’t attribute it to that, either. I decided, reluctantly, to do a dairy elimination, even though I didn’t consume much, just the cream in my morning coffee and some occasional cheese and greek yogurt. After almost 2 weeks of not being able to detect any difference, completely unlike the grain elimination, I was desperately searching the internet looking for anything that might help my joint pain, which was getting to the point I was contemplating how long I would be able to avoid a wheelchair, when I stumbled upon this:

    And eventually this:

    I started taking a tablespoon a day, dissolving it in my coffee and adding coconut milk, as I hadn’t finished my 2-week dairy elimination yet. In a couple of days it was making a discernible difference, so I went back to having cream in my coffee with the gelatin, and now, a year and a half later, I take about 4 tablespoons (40-50 grams) per day. It keeps getting cumulatively better, things I had pain doing a year ago I can now do without pain. It has truly worked a miracle with my joints and tendons, and I know I sound a bit evangelical, but if it can help one other person as much as it’s helped me, I don’t mind sounding a little bit like a crackpot.

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 19, 2012 at 11:28 pm | Permalink

      It’s funny…I’ve been wondering if dairy might the culprit and if things don’t get better, I may try eliminating it, as well. Thanks for sharing your story!

  • Posted January 19, 2012 at 11:39 pm | Permalink

    I heard a story once about healthy boundaries…..imagine a home on a beach with a white picket fence and a swinging gate…it keeps people out, yet they can enter through the gate at will….you can see as far as you want and you can venture out to the sand. …it is stationery but gives the illusion of open because of a gate and the height of the pickets…….boundaries can also be drawn in the sand, the ebb and flow of the tides can wash them away and they can be re-visited the next time….

    Both are boundaries… all depends on where you are at at that moment in time….

    just don’t use any of them as walls to keep you INSIDE the house….

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:28 pm | Permalink

      Love that analogy Jules!!

  • Posted January 19, 2012 at 11:43 pm | Permalink

    Wheat-loss! And gluten-loss! I’ve read so many things suggesting giving these inflammatory agents up can be beneficial even if we don’t have a severe sensitivity. I’ll be interested to hear how this goes for you.

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:27 pm | Permalink

      Yeah…that’s pretty much why I am experimenting in this way!

  • Posted January 20, 2012 at 4:40 am | Permalink

    I’m also keen to hear how you go. I’m coeliac (celiac in US spelling!!!!) so can’t eat all sorts of stuff. I have to say I waited to feel AMAZING when I had to give up gluten six or so years ago, but never really noticed a huge difference I have to say. *Sigh*


    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:26 pm | Permalink

      It’s funny…there are several folks who told me the same. We shall see…I know it can’t hurt, right?

  • Posted January 20, 2012 at 10:27 am | Permalink

    I wonder, have been WONDERING :), if the husband would read wheat belly if I bought it for him….

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

      There’s only one way to find out :-)

  • anne h
    Posted January 20, 2012 at 12:15 pm | Permalink

    Well….. I don’t have CD either… or any other condition “except” obesity…. So when I went LoCarb, I stopped the wheat. And I never looked back…. Or felt better. Can’t wait to hear how you like it!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

      You don’t feel better Anne?

  • Posted January 20, 2012 at 1:48 pm | Permalink

    Wow – that’s a huge decision. I applaud you for making that decision and I hope that it makes you feel healthier and resolves any health issues you are experiencing. I’ll be interested in following your experiences – I hope you will share!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

      Thanks Diane…I will most definitely share!

  • Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:22 pm | Permalink

    That’s a big step! I don’t think I could give up wheat, but then I don’t have any issues with it. I hope that going gluten-free improves your health. Good luck to you!

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 20, 2012 at 3:24 pm | Permalink

      To be honest, I am not sure I have “issues” with it either…this is an experiment.

  • Posted January 20, 2012 at 4:25 pm | Permalink

    Before I forget, I am LOVING your book, Karen. I find I am stealing minutes here, there, and everywhere to read it. It is validating what I’ve always believed — that it’s all about self acceptance first and weight loss second.

    Well, phooey. Kinda wish I hadn’t read this blog post because now I might have to go read that info about wheat. And I don’t want to give up wheat!!!! (That’s my two year-old Carol stomping her feet and having a tantrum.)

    Re comfort zone, I find it’s better if I take small steps outside the zone rather than the giant leap that is my tendency. The small steps don’t activate my fear the way the big steps do, and I’m more likely to give that new place outside the comfort zone more of a chance.

  • KCLAnderson
    Posted January 20, 2012 at 7:08 pm | Permalink

    Thank you Carol!!

    And you know what? You don’t have to give up wheat! I am not even sure I have to. I just wanted to try it. I wanted to step outside my comfort zone in the name of curious experimentation!

  • Posted January 21, 2012 at 6:28 am | Permalink

    Ha har – wheat loss.

    I think that is a great comfort zone shake up. Glad you did not insist you were gluten intolerant. That would not be much of a zone challenge.

    I know this – I am gluten intolerant, but when I eat things composed of primarily what I eat it like I will never get it again. Me and my neighbor’s gifted raisin bread for example. Sigh.

    There is something about it. I will look forward to reading about how it goes. I MAY take a cue from you. If you feel like a brand new woman with a flat stomach and a full life – well – wheat and I might have to wheat again some other day. Yep. Best I could do. Long day and I am wheat intoxicated. Seriously. I am.

    • Posted January 21, 2012 at 6:29 am | Permalink

      I am NOT gluten intolerant. I always skip the crucial word. Glad I proof read AFTER hitting send. Grr.

      • KCLAnderson
        Posted January 21, 2012 at 2:00 pm | Permalink

        Well, I already feel like I have a full life…very lucky in that regard. For me this is much more about feeling physically better.

  • Posted January 21, 2012 at 5:48 pm | Permalink

    I love bread and pasta, but actually feel much better when I don’t have them. It will be interesting to see what your experiences are.

    This is a great challenge! Well done!

  • Posted January 22, 2012 at 1:19 pm | Permalink

    Our household is not wheat-free but wheat-reduced — greatly. We both noticed a few years ago that we retained more water and felt bloated and uncomfortable if we ate too much bread or pasta. We try not to have bread more than once or twice weekly, and we no longer buy the delicious crusty fabulous breads, but just something plain and uninspiring and sliced that I can keep in the freezer to use for an occasional piece of toast with eggs in the AM — that helps us eat less. I only cook pasta once every two or three weeks, if that, and I am planning to experiment with pastas made from rice flour and other ground grains. Nevertheless, I probably just eat a few too many calories daily, and don’t burn enough. My weight is pretty stable right now, but I’m definitely not losing.

    As to comfort zones, you said above “I have the safety and security of a wonderful marriage to an amazing man who loves me unconditionally. I often marvel at what I was able to create for myself, given the examples I had growing up. This comfort zone is sacrosanct. I don’t have to step out of it.” I say “ditto” — you could have been describing my life and how I feel. Thank you Karen.

    • KCLAnderson
      Posted January 22, 2012 at 7:50 pm | Permalink

      When I decided to do the wheat-free thing I realized that I was certainly eating a lot less than I was a few years ago, so it wasn’t too much of a stretch to decide to quit it altogether. I may add it back in again at some point.

      And I’m glad you have the same kind of comfort zone…I wish it for all of us!

  • Posted January 24, 2012 at 11:54 pm | Permalink

    I love that everyone seems to find a way to adapt this challenge to themselves. It is incredibly difficult to “announce” decisions like these. Congrats for stepping outside your comfort zone. I’ve long suspected a gluten issue and have greatly reduced the amount I consume with some improvements. I’ll be following to see how it affects you.
    Thanks for the link to the Mel Robbins video. I loved it!
    Have fun on your retreat, I’m also looking forward to reading about that. What a wonderful opportunity!

  • Kate
    Posted January 30, 2012 at 12:28 am | Permalink

    I stopped eating wheat last year, and didn’t realize how many of my health problems were due to inflammation from eating wheat. My skin is clearer, the chronic eczema on my hands has gone away, my TMJ is better, and my dental hygienist says my gums are remarkably healthy now. I’m pretty amazed at how many ills were cured from simply changing my diet.

  • Posted February 6, 2012 at 6:55 pm | Permalink

    I missed this post. I have his book at home right now and am slowly working my way through. I so wish there was less science and more just to the point, for people like myself who are in inpatient:) I’m off to check out those links.

  • Posted February 9, 2012 at 5:08 pm | Permalink

    how is it, dear friend, you always seem to be reading my mind. I have been thinking about wheat elimination. I have heard inflammation (such as the arthritis in my knees) can be worse with wheat. I definitely eat my share of bread and pasta….and while I am not sure if I just like it too much that I eat too much or if I have actual bloating from the wheat. I know part of my joint issues is a weight issue and my joints would be happier with less weight…so I may looking into wheat loss!
    Thanks for all this information!

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