“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would split open.” ~ Murial Rukeyser
Taken from Carla Birnburg’s recent, truthful blog post, If One Woman Told The Truth… (so worth reading the whole thing).
If you are or have ever been the type of woman is/was attracted to men who can’t/won’t commit, this is an excellent explanation. Although I was never “repulsed” by Tim, when I first met him, I had a bit of the same conflict going on, for many of the same reasons.
“You are accustomed to being ignored, dismissed, and listened to only in the most cursory fashion, so this man who adores you, listens closely, and tries very hard to please seems unlovable. He seems unlovable because he makes you aware of yourself. When you’re chasing a guy who’s distracted, uninterested, dismissive, you are blissfully unaware of yourself, lost in the chase, trying to get him to love you. When someone loves you as you are, you don’t have the same luxury of not showing up completely.” ~ Ask Polly in I Am Severely Chafed By My Gentle, Compassionate Boyfriend
Until I read this, I never quite understood why I didn’t like it when others would say, “I’m sorry to hear that.”
“It’s disempowering when we ‘take pity’ on another. I realize it isn’t a conscious intention but when we pity or feel sorry for others we forget this person is very powerful. Whatever circumstances they have found themselves in they have all the power within them to survive it and grow from it. (Taking pity is much different than praying for their highest good and trusting in the Divine plan).” ~ Wendy Wolfe in Full Disclosure
“We can be victimized and not resort to victim consciousness. Victim consciousness is the state of mind we are in anytime we see ourselves as being at the mercy of, or done in by, someone or something outside of us. Refuse to blame – them OR yourself – and look instead for the lessons and gifts offered by the painful situation in which you find yourself.” ~ Lynne Forrest
This is the essence of acceptance and profound self-trust…it empowers us.
Before Christmas and after my shoulder surgery was scheduled, I thought, “How am I going to keep my body moving?” (because it may be months before I am able to kickbox, swing a kettlebell, or even practice yoga). And one day on a walk to the beach, as I snapped a photo, I had a brilliant idea and the Ocean Beach Park 365 Project was born.
Oh, my surgery went well and I am on the mend!
Swoon. Driven to tears, indeed.