If you want to forgive your mother and are having a hard time of it, change the story from:
“That shouldn’t have happened.” (resistance)
to “It happened.” (acceptance)
to “I learned something about myself.” (gratitude)
Notice if something shifts.
But only if you want to forgive. And it’s more than okay if you don’t. Don’t “should” yourself into it.
When you choose to forgive, you in no way change the past, but you sure do change the future. ~ Bernard Meltzer
What do you want to choose to forgive in order that you change the future in your favor?