by KCLAnderson | Apr 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
A couple of weeks ago I led a small group of women through the process of setting boundaries with their mothers. We spent time on the “how to” part: Request + Action + Benefit = Healthy Boundary You make a request, you follow up with action, and you...
by KCLAnderson | Mar 21, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Mother-daughter relationship
One of the first questions I ask women when they tell me about the troubled relationship they have with their mother is… How do you want to feel? A lot of times the answer is: “I want to feel neutral.” When I ask, “why neutral?” the...
by KCLAnderson | Mar 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized
It’s a hard truth: not only does your mother not respect your boundaries…she very well may not respect you. It hurts. Deeply. Sure, you can chalk it up to an addiction, a personality disorder, a mental illness, or just plain old meanness. But deep down...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 26, 2019 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship
I know what stopped me. My fear that she wouldn’t respect them. Which would mean she didn’t respect ME. And for a very long time I wasn’t willing to take that risk. For years, my fear kept me spinning in self-doubt and confusion about what I wanted....
by KCLAnderson | Feb 22, 2019 | Boundaries, Dementia, Generational patterns, Grandma, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
(Do you feel emotionally exhausted by your mother? Setting boundaries is the solution. Click here to sign up for my 1-day online boundaries workshop.) Question from a reader: My mother, who was and is mentally ill, now also has dementia and forgets what I say,...
