by KCLAnderson | Mar 21, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Mother-daughter relationship
One of the first questions I ask women when they tell me about the troubled relationship they have with their mother is… How do you want to feel? A lot of times the answer is: “I want to feel neutral.” When I ask, “why neutral?” the...
by KCLAnderson | Mar 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized
It’s a hard truth: not only does your mother not respect your boundaries…she very well may not respect you. It hurts. Deeply. Sure, you can chalk it up to an addiction, a personality disorder, a mental illness, or just plain old meanness. But deep down...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 26, 2019 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship
I know what stopped me. My fear that she wouldn’t respect them. Which would mean she didn’t respect ME. And for a very long time I wasn’t willing to take that risk. For years, my fear kept me spinning in self-doubt and confusion about what I wanted....
by KCLAnderson | Feb 7, 2019 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
One evening my husband and I were driving home from a concert and we were talking about something that triggered a memory: I must have been nine or ten years old and my family went to New Hampshire to visit my great-grandparents (my mother’s mother’s...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 1, 2019 | Awareness, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
[I AM NOT DOING MY JOB if anyone who reads my books/columns/newsletter believes that they have to wait for someone to die in order to feel better (and I make this distinction…it’s okay if you want to wait, but you don’t HAVE to wait)] Question from...
