Advice, Essays, and other bits of wisdom

On anger: writing prompts and practices

Dr. Mario Martinez (author of The Mind-Body Code) says there is a role in your life for healthy anger, for appropriate anger, for righteous anger. Righteous anger is a fast, hot fire that burns up the poison of shaming, and protects your field of honor. This is the...

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Bring yourself back to you

Dear You... It's not wrong to feel what you feel. You are not wrong. You are seen. You are heard. You are understood. You've been through a lot in your life. It's okay to take a break. Take a break from focusing on your mother and all the things she has done and said....

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“There’s no need to feel _____________” and other lies we’ve been told

Just now I was reading a novel in which one character (let's call her Ann) says to another (let's call her Zoe), "There's no need to feel embarrassed." Ostensibly, Ann wants Zoe to feel better. She doesn't want Zoe to feel embarrassed. Why? Why do we even say things...

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