Advice, Essays, and other bits of wisdom

“There’s no need to feel _____________” and other lies we’ve been told

Just now I was reading a novel in which one character (let's call her Ann) says to another (let's call her Zoe), "There's no need to feel embarrassed." Ostensibly, Ann wants Zoe to feel better. She doesn't want Zoe to feel embarrassed. Why? Why do we even say things...

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What does it mean to “break the cycle”?

How many times have you said something like, “My mother did x so I will do y.” Or “My mother was this way so I am going to do the opposite.” Or, "I'm going to break the cycle of [insert dysfunctional pattern here]." Only to find yourself doing the same exact thing or...

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