The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide has sold well over 100,000 copies worldwide. It is being revised and expanded and will be out under a new title in early 2018.

Women who have read the book say this:

“I discovered The Peaceful Daughter when I was at a point in my therapy where I could see that I should stop blaming myself for the difficulties in my relationship with my mother. While I was reading, I must have underlined 90% of it because everything resonated and made me cry like a baby. A truly cathartic experience which is continuing now, with this group. Knowing that other women have made certain steps is allowing me to do the same without feeling constantly guilty. I feel more entitled to pursue my own happiness.”

“I have taken responsibility for how I feel instead of thinking she makes me feel ______. THANK YOU!!!”

“I am not as reactive now and can separate her behaviour to mine meaning I’m more at peace.”

“It has changed all my relationships. I now value myself and my opinions/emotions/intuition as much as those of other people – more when it’s about me.”

“I used to feel guilty for any thing I was doing for myself. Now I feel happy making my own choices. I am able to connect better with friends and peers. Still quite a long way to go but I am making progress.”


Every woman has a mother story. A story she uses to define herself, to limit herself, to react from, to blame from, and to shame herself from.

Using her own story, the author provides a series of thought-provoking concepts and tools to help adult daughters rewrite and transform their mother stories from tales of blame, shame, and reaction, to narratives of resilience, empowerment, and autonomy.

This is NOT another “here’s what’s wrong with your mother” book! In The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide to Separating from a Difficult Mother, Karen shares her down-to-earth and light-hearted wisdom and personal examples to illustrate the process she used to feel better about herself, using her relationship with her mother as the lens through which to focus.

Readers will learn:

The difference between stories that hold you back and a story that sets you free. What emotions really are, how to literally feel and process them, and how to safely express them. The connection between thoughts and feelings. The art of setting empowered boundaries. How to stop “shoulding” when it comes to yourself and your mother. How to start truly taking care of yourself and meet your own needs.

Advance Praise for The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide to Separating from a Difficult Mother

“The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide is a practical and uplifting guide for the scores of women whose relationship with their mothers is less than optimal!” ~ Christiane Northrup, M.D., ob/gyn physician and author of the New York Times bestsellers: “Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Wellbeing”, “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom”,  and “The Wisdom of Menopause”

“The work that Karen C.L. Anderson is doing with daughters in regards to their mothers is some of the most important work on the planet today. When we understand how influenced our minds are by what happened when we were growing up, we can then decide to let it go. In this book, Karen gives us the steps to do just that. I know from experience that this work is not easy, but it is by far the most important work I have ever done. Let Karen show you the way.” ~ Brooke Castillo, Master Coach Instructor & Founder of The Life Coach School

“At the very best of times, the mother-daughter relationship is one of complexity. An unloved Daughter – a Daughter that is abandoned emotionally – experiences a relationship peppered with harsh behavioral minefields: enmeshment, confusion, grief, fear, anger, shame…behaviors that can take control, making it not the reality she wants, but the reality she thinks she has to live. The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide shows a way to navigate this difficult minefield and how to come back on the other side to create the reality you want. This is not a book that’s filled with behavioral data and no support. It is a first-hand account of someone who has walked the complicated walk of the Unloved Daughter and who has found a better way. It offers exercises to help bring more clarity (and understanding) to this relationship. It is obvious that Karen’s experience is what drove her to create this guide.  And it is what makes it such a sincere, loving and inspirational resource for helping others.” ~ Jo Pillmore, Mindset Coach

“I’ve been a fan of Karen C.L. Anderson for a long time. She’s kind, compassionate, and she gets it. Kudos to her on more evidence of that with The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide to Separating from a Difficult Mother. In it, she brings to life how to maneuver through what for many of us is a very difficult yet primary relationship and come out on top–not to the detriment of anyone and much to the benefit of yourself. It’s a valuable read for anyone who has or had “mother problems.” And there’s a bonus: The strategies she suggests could be helpful in any close relationship in your life.” ~ Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD, President & Co-Owner, Green Mountain at Fox Run