It doesn’t have to be a “sad reality” if your mother can’t or won’t love you

It doesn’t have to be a “sad reality” if your mother can’t or won’t love you

This morning I was tagged in a thread on Facebook in which someone shared an article about why unloved daughters struggle to escape shame. Several women commented that this had been (and in some cases still is) their experience. “This is my personal story. I...
You can’t set a boundary and take care of your mother’s feelings at the same time

You can’t set a boundary and take care of your mother’s feelings at the same time

“The nature of conflict means you can’t set a boundary in your life and take care of someone else’s feelings at the same time.” ~ Martha Beck And there you have it: most of us were taught (via modeling and unspoken expectation culturally) to be responsible our...
Summoning equanimity = the difference between “I don’t care what people think!” and letting people think whatever they want to think

Summoning equanimity = the difference between “I don’t care what people think!” and letting people think whatever they want to think

Old story: I wonder what so-and-so thinks about me (about that blog post I wrote, about that thing I offered, about what I said on Facebook)? I hope they’re thinking positive things. What if they’re thinking not-positive things? And – especially – what if they’re...