This morning I was tagged in a thread on Facebook in which someone shared an article about why unloved daughters struggle to escape shame. Several women commented that this had been (and in some cases still is) their experience. “This is my personal story. I wish I had a mother that loved me. I’ve always been to blame. It’s a sad… Read More
A note from a reader… Dear Karen, I’m curious to hear your thoughts on choosing to interact with someone when you feel like the relationship is not settled or where you want it to be. My specific example right now is my sister…things are definitely not settled between us, in my mind. I’ve said so to her and invited her to… Read More
{edited for context from “A Love Letter To The World” by Kate Courageous, with her permission} In the face of her complaints, look at your mother and imagine what it might have been like to be raised to see only what is wrong. In the face of her selfishness, wonder what it might be like to walk the world with a feeling… Read More
Picture this: a group of women go on retreat to a magical place in Colorado called Salida. More specifically, the rugged and remote home of one of the women…a home that, while rugged and remote, is also an oasis of creativity and comfort. These women, who met for the first time just six months earlier, bond in a way that… Read More
I’ve written a time or ten about emotional meltdowns and how, over time, I’ve recognized that what I need most when I am melting down is my own presence and the ability to trust that it won’t last forever, even though it feels like it will. When I am doing my best for myself in the midst of big emotions,… Read More