by KCLAnderson | May 13, 2019 | Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
My mother is old and dying. We’ve never gotten along and everyone knows it. I can’t think of one nice thing to say about her. She was/is [insert all the negative things about her here]. But I feel obligated to say something nice about her at her funeral....
by KCLAnderson | Apr 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship
Message from an almost reader: One of the biggest reasons I have not bought your book is that I do NOT want to discover that I am culpable in this issue with my mother. I have limited contact with her. Have the healthiest boundaries I’ve ever had – I honestly...
by KCLAnderson | Apr 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
A couple of weeks ago I led a small group of women through the process of setting boundaries with their mothers. We spent time on the “how to” part: Request + Action + Benefit = Healthy Boundary You make a request, you follow up with action, and you...
by KCLAnderson | Mar 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized
It’s a hard truth: not only does your mother not respect your boundaries…she very well may not respect you. It hurts. Deeply. Sure, you can chalk it up to an addiction, a personality disorder, a mental illness, or just plain old meanness. But deep down...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 22, 2019 | Boundaries, Dementia, Generational patterns, Grandma, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
(Do you feel emotionally exhausted by your mother? Setting boundaries is the solution. Click here to sign up for my 1-day online boundaries workshop.) Question from a reader: My mother, who was and is mentally ill, now also has dementia and forgets what I say, even...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 7, 2019 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
One evening my husband and I were driving home from a concert and we were talking about something that triggered a memory: I must have been nine or ten years old and my family went to New Hampshire to visit my great-grandparents (my mother’s mother’s...
