by KCLAnderson | Mar 12, 2019 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized
It’s a hard truth: not only does your mother not respect your boundaries…she very well may not respect you. It hurts. Deeply. Sure, you can chalk it up to an addiction, a personality disorder, a mental illness, or just plain old meanness. But deep down...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 22, 2019 | Boundaries, Dementia, Generational patterns, Grandma, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
(Do you feel emotionally exhausted by your mother? Setting boundaries is the solution. Click here to sign up for my 1-day online boundaries workshop.) Question from a reader: My mother, who was and is mentally ill, now also has dementia and forgets what I say, even...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 7, 2019 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
One evening my husband and I were driving home from a concert and we were talking about something that triggered a memory: I must have been nine or ten years old and my family went to New Hampshire to visit my great-grandparents (my mother’s mother’s...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 23, 2019 | Awareness, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
I recently read Tara Westover’s memoir, Educated. My interest in the book was piqued by this quote: “I shed my guilt (of cutting family ties) when I accepted my decision on its own terms, without endlessly prosecuting old grievances, without weighing his sins...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 11, 2019 | Awareness, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
Christmas Day, 2018 On a day that would normally be filled with busyness and family, my husband was in bed with what we thought was the flu (it wasn’t…and he’s fine) and I was zoning out on Facebook. A message request came through from a woman who...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 4, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Generational patterns, The Wisdom of Others
Dear you… This work is iterative. It builds on itself. It’s rarely one-and-done. It’s very rarely ever a simple flip of the switch. You choose to look inward, to heal, to transform yourself using the lens of your relationship with your mother. You...
