by KCLAnderson | Dec 13, 2019 | Anger, Awareness, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it’s asking others to live as one wishes to live. ~ Ruth Rendell Difficult mothers often want their adult daughters to live as they do (without even realizing it, mostly). “We do it this way.”...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 25, 2019 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow
[exploring a dynamic at the heart of some difficult mother-daughter relationships] A while back I watched The Graduate. I’d seen it once before, many years ago, when I was a plastics industry trade magazine editor, because everyone quoted this line to me:...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 22, 2019 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships
[I’ve been asked many times over the years why it’s so hard for some of us to have anything more than “superficial” conversations with our mothers or daughters…after a recent conversation with my mother, here’s my long answer.] The...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship
Last summer my mother asked me why I didn’t want to have children. She was sure there was a specific reason like: “You didn’t want to have to clean poopy diapers or hold someone’s head while they threw up.” While that is true, it’s not “the reason.” I replied that...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 30, 2019 | Awareness, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized
I am reading the final proof of The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns and am reminded once again how powerful this work has been – and continues to be – in my life. How many times have you...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 10, 2019 | Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism
People share articles about narcissistic (or, insert issue of your choice here) mothers with me. The articles are often accurate. And at the same time, they can be limiting. And in some ways harmful. It’s the same with online “support” groups. While...
