by KCLAnderson | Jan 11, 2019 | Awareness, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
Christmas Day, 2018 On a day that would normally be filled with busyness and family, my husband was in bed with what we thought was the flu (it wasn’t…and he’s fine) and I was zoning out on Facebook. A message request came through from a woman who...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 4, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Generational patterns, The Wisdom of Others
Dear you… This work is iterative. It builds on itself. It’s rarely one-and-done. It’s very rarely ever a simple flip of the switch. You choose to look inward, to heal, to transform yourself using the lens of your relationship with your mother. You...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 7, 2018 | Generational patterns, Liberty Session, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Shadow
“What if I become just like her?” This is such a common fear amongst women who struggle in their relationship with their difficult mothers. I heard someone say recently that narcissism is learned behavior…a learned coping mechanism. My mother used to...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 26, 2018 | Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
Question from a reader: How do I let go of my fear of disappointing my mother? And why is it so scary? Dear you: FODO (Fear Of Disappointing Others) is real. It’s so real that it can often stop us in our tracks, keep us from setting boundaries, and make us do...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 2, 2018 | Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, The Wisdom of Others
Dear you… If you like to read as much as I do, I have a treat for you: check out these 9 Books To Help You Understand Your Mom. While self-help books have their place, fiction can also be helpful when it comes to understanding your mother and healing your...
by KCLAnderson | Sep 14, 2018 | Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
Taking responsibility for setting boundaries in your relationship with your mother (whether you are in contact with her or not) is like racing a car (or motorcycle, or even a horse). It’s all about knowing where you want to go and focusing your attention on your...
