Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept

The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.

Grieving a mother who is still alive

Question from a reader... A friend recently lost her mother and I think it sparked a grieving process in me. It's as if my own mother was dead, the mother I always wished I had. My mother is, of course, alive and well and we continue to have a very difficult...

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Let’s talk about betrayal

I recently read Tara Westover's memoir, Educated. My interest in the book was piqued by this quote: “I shed my guilt (of cutting family ties) when I accepted my decision on its own terms, without endlessly prosecuting old grievances, without weighing his sins against...

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An unlikely Christmas story

Christmas Day, 2018 On a day that would normally be filled with busyness and family, my husband was in bed with what we thought was the flu (it wasn't...and he's fine) and I was zoning out on Facebook. A message request came through from a woman who wrote: “Have you...

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