Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept

The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.

#showingup2018 Day 1

[A five-part series inspired by my participation in Amy Walsh's Art of Showing Up five-day workshop] My medium is words. I don't aspire to become a great visual artist. And yet? This guided practice of taking selfies and playing with them made my vocation...

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I have a shame-based fear of being ordinary…and

“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.” ~ Brené Brown, in her...

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What does it mean to “break the cycle”?

How many times have you said something like, “My mother did x so I will do y.” Or “My mother was this way so I am going to do the opposite.” Or, "I'm going to break the cycle of [insert dysfunctional pattern here]." Only to find yourself doing the same exact thing or...

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