Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept

The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.

An unlikely Christmas story

Christmas Day, 2018 On a day that would normally be filled with busyness and family, my husband was in bed with what we thought was the flu (it wasn't...and he's fine) and I was zoning out on Facebook. A message request came through from a woman who wrote: “Have you...

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Unlearning what you’ve been taught to be sorry about

Dear you... This work is iterative. It builds on itself. It's rarely one-and-done. It's very rarely ever a simple flip of the switch. You choose to look inward, to heal, to transform yourself using the lens of your relationship with your mother. You come to know that...

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An open letter to your mother

Imagine me reading this to your mother...or, if you'd like to hear me read it, click here. Also, your mother may be mentally ill, addicted, and/or have a personality disorder that prevents her from having the empathy and ability to hear and receive this message in the...

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