Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept
The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.
Question from a reader: "What's your best advice on how to protect your own children from your mother's dysfunction?" First, you model healthy boundaries with your mother so your kids know what healthy boundaries look like. And then, in no particular order: Teach your...read more
Taking responsibility for setting boundaries in your relationship with your mother (whether you are in contact with her or not) is like racing a car (or motorcycle, or even a horse). It’s all about knowing where you want to go and focusing your attention on your...read more
Are you local to Southeastern Connecticut? I will be discussing Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration at the Waterford Public Library on Wednesday, October 3. Check it out and I hope to see you there! ~~~~~ Question...read more
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