So the other night at dinner, Tim and I were talking and I said (something like), “I’m noticing a difference in my belly. The upper part is thinning out a bit and getting more defined, but the lower part seems more poochy and puffy and…blob-like. My clothes pretty much fit the same way, except in that one spot. I was hoping my kettlebell workouts would take care of it. I don’t want to blame it on age, but maybe that’s a factor?”

He replied, “Gravity definitely plays a part.” He’s six years older than I am.

And I said, “Maybe I should give up wine?”

He laughed and suggested waiting until after our 15th anniversary (in early September) because he didn’t want me to miss out on celebrating.

And I said, “You know me better than that. I don’t ever say that I’ll never eat or drink [fill in the blank] again. It just sets me up for failure. But cutting those calories would make a difference.”

He seemed to think they wouldn’t, but then he held his hands up as if weighing two options, and said: “It’s like that Harley commercial. Harley? Dinette set. Harley? Dinette set. Except for you it’s, Wine? Belly. Wine? Belly.” Make sure you watch the commercial…it’s funny.

We then started talking about “addictive” personalities and I once again marveled at how seemingly easily Tim has given up things like cigarettes and coffee.

He quit smoking long before I knew him. He was a smoker in his teens and early 20s and the story goes that one day he decided to quit, when, having run up three flights of stairs and finding himself out of breath, was disgusted with himself. He quit, but not before he finished the pack he had. And that was it.

Just recently, due to an “overactive bladder” he decided to give up coffee in an effort to see if it made any difference. And it did. So just like that, he’s off coffee after 40 years of two cups per day.

He said that for him, it was just a matter of deciding. And really, isn’t that what it’s all about? Getting clear about what we really want?

I’ve come a long way from the woman who used to drink a whole bottle of wine and then some, pretty much every night. There are countless other things I have either cut way back on or eat/drink very rarely. Things that I never thought I could live without, like my daily toasted “everything” bagel with cream cheese, orange juice, and diet Coke. More recently I’ve pretty much eliminated dairy, as I’ve discovered my body doesn’t handle lactose very well. I eat very little bread (relatively speaking) and pasta, rarely.

As for the wine? I’ve decided I am not ready to give up my daily glass (and a half). At some point in the future, I may decide differently.

Are you able to give things up, just like that? Or are you like me, who would rather cut back rather than say “never again”?