Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept
The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.
"What if I become just like her?" This is such a common fear amongst women who struggle in their relationship with their difficult mothers. I heard someone say recently that narcissism is learned behavior...a learned coping mechanism. My mother used to tell me that...read more
I wrote this in response to a query from a writer for Martha Stewart magazine who was looking for answers from women 50+ to this question: What's the #1 piece of advice you'd like to tell your younger self? My answer wasn't used, so I am sharing it with you. Dear...read more
Question from a reader: How do I let go of my fear of disappointing my mother? And why is it so scary? Dear you: FODO (Fear Of Disappointing Others) is real. It's so real that it can often stop us in our tracks, keep us from setting boundaries, and make us do things...read more
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