Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept

The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.

“What do I say at her funeral?”

My mother is old and dying. We've never gotten along and everyone knows it. I can't think of one nice thing to say about her. She was/is [insert all the negative things about her here]. But I feel obligated to say something nice about her at her funeral. Please help...

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It was never about not being able to love

Questions from a reader: I’m reading your book. On page 130, you talk about the child you were carrying at age 21 and how you chose not to carry it. Can you explain? As a reader of your words I want to understand what you mean. Did you think you couldn’t love a child...

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She was afraid to discover that it might be all her fault

Message from an almost reader: One of the biggest reasons I have not bought your book is that I do NOT want to discover that I am culpable in this issue with my mother. I have limited contact with her. Have the healthiest boundaries I've ever had – I honestly forgave...

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