You don't have to keep the shame your mother handed to you
Releasing generational trauma and shame so you can live with greater freedom, connection, and self-trust.
Who You Are
You are an adult daughter with a difficult mother and you're at your wits end. You want to set healthy boundaries, step off the guilt-resentment merry-go-round, and heal from the impact of generational trauma and internalized shame.
You feel stuck in patterns that aren't yours
You are seeking deeper self-understanding and emotional freedom
You want to break cycles and build healthier relationships
with yourself, your partner, your own children
WHO I AM
Author, Coach, Shame Whisperer, Silent Disco Queen
I know what it’s like to live under the weight of shame, terrified that flourishing means disloyalty.
Through my own healing, I discovered a middle path between an unsatisfying either/or: EITHER I remain loyal to my mother at my own expense and feel resentment and anger for the rest of my life, OR I cut her out completely and feel ashamed and guilty for the rest of my life.
My approach is grounded in lived experience, deep empathy, and an unwavering belief that things that are alive want to flourish, including you.
I don't offer quick fixes or life hacks. I offer fierce love, honest reckoning, and a path from shame to joy that honors your nervous system, your timeline, and your truth.
On a practical level, we work on creating three things: safety, intentional identity, and healthy boundaries.
This is current me holding four-year-old me and it's the perfect representation of what I think it means to heal: turning something that was a source of suffering into a source of wisdom.
BOOKS
Book for Every Stage
of Your Healing
Whether you're just beginning to name what you've experienced or you're deep in the work of healing, these books offer clarity, validation, and a path forward.
Journal Prompts & Practices
for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity to Flow (Creative Writing Skills and Confidence Builders)
A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (Companion Journal to Difficult Mothers Adult Daughters)
New! Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame (Living Free from Narcissistic Mothers and Fathers)
I do this work for the three girls here: my grandmother, my mother, and me, all at age 17.
WORK WITH ME
1:1 Coaching For Women Ready to Unburden and Flourish
For women ready to unburden and unshame with personalized support.
We'll work together to:
Dismantle internalized shame at the root
Navigate complicated decisions (boundaries, contact, estrangement)
Make flourishing feel safe instead of dangerous
This isn't about fixing you (or her) or forcing estrangement. It's about helping you find your own answers in a way that honors your nervous system, your timeline, and your truth.
I currently offer one-off 90-minute sessions (which include a week of follow-up via email or text) for $250. This session is ideal for hammering out a boundary you want to set, using the 6Ns for emotional regulation when experiencing shame, navigating the guilt/resentment trap, navigating emotions that come with estrangement (whether you're the mother or the adult daughter), or [insert the conundrum of your choice here]
You will walk away with clarity, next steps, resources to help you take action, and a week of email follow up.
Client Experiences
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I had put in serious mileage in therapy, so I understood what the issues were, but what Karen does is far more pragmatic and relevant for helping you where you are NOW. If you are having trouble stepping off the crazy carousel of guilt, resentment and anger, this work will give you the tools to take your life back.
~ L.B.
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You never fail to surprise me with how on point and how relatable your words and messages are.
~ K.S
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I've seen therapists on and off my entire adult life and none of them ever really helped. It felt like they were trying to fix me, whereas Karen has taught me to accept myself where I am at any given time and that has made all the difference.
~ B.L.
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I finally know who I am, apart from my mother, who only ever saw me as her "mini-me."
~ C.A.
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Although the work I did with Karen was significant and life-changing, it was not heavy. Instead, I felt loads lifting I didn't know I'd been carrying for decades.
~ Mel C.
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If there was a Nobel Prize for women supporting women, you'd be a recipient.
~ C.H.
CONTACT
Connect With Me
Schedule a Call
Contact info and link to schedule and pay for a 90-minute session