Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept
The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.
Questions from a reader: My relationship with my mother broke down the same year my husband and I got married, nearly 10 years ago. I tried for the first year with phone calls on birthdays, holidays, etc. That broke down so then I sent cards which I kept doing up...read more
[This post falls into the categories of "self acceptance through storytelling" and "examining the ways in which we are like our mothers." I have written a time or two about how when we resist being like our mothers there may be unintended consequences. I recently...read more
...boundaries and saying yes to my whole self. One evening several weeks ago an iron fell off a shelf in my closet and clocked me pretty smartly on the head. It fell because I had reached up to move clothes hangers to one side and the cord from the iron got caught in...read more
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