Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept
The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.
Question from a reader (with a long answer from me): My aging NPD/BPD mother was just admitted to the hospital for a possible limb amputation. She asked me to take care of her when she is discharged. It takes an act of sheer will just to call her occasionally, and now...read more
"Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me." ~ Audre Lorde For years, I couldn't stand the idea of my mother thinking I was a selfish, spoiled brat, a liar, a sneak, and someone who takes the easy way out. And and and. Now I am fine with her...read more
Two years ago, my relationship with my mother came to an end. To sum up my 42 years with her would be a difficult and complicated novel no one would want to read. The last conversation we had began with her asking me, "how much money would it take to get you out of...read more
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