Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept
The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.
Dr. Mario Martinez (author of The Mind-Body Code) says there is a role in your life for healthy anger, for appropriate anger, for righteous anger. Righteous anger is a fast, hot fire that burns up the poison of shaming, and protects your field of honor. This is the...read more
Dear you... If you like to read as much as I do, I have a treat for you: check out these 9 Books To Help You Understand Your Mom. While self-help books have their place, fiction can also be helpful when it comes to understanding your mother and healing your...read more
Question from a reader: "What's your best advice on how to protect your own children from your mother's dysfunction?" First, you model healthy boundaries with your mother so your kids know what healthy boundaries look like. And then, in no particular order: Teach your...read more
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