Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept

The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.

She was afraid to discover that it might be all her fault

Message from an almost reader: One of the biggest reasons I have not bought your book is that I do NOT want to discover that I am culpable in this issue with my mother. I have limited contact with her. Have the healthiest boundaries I've ever had – I honestly forgave...

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Crying out for Mother…

...even if she's the Mother we never had. Was there something in the air? Or a celestial phenomenon? I had a moment of deep sorrow a few weeks ago. I sobbed. And then, for a day or so, the tears would leak, seemingly unbidden, from my eyes. The sorrow morphed briefly...

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When it feels like you might die

A couple of weeks ago I led a small group of women through the process of setting boundaries with their mothers. We spent time on the "how to" part: Request + Action + Benefit = Healthy Boundary You make a request, you follow up with action, and you understand the...

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