Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

The Matriarch Mare is calm because her boundaries are impeccable. Because she knows who she is – with clarity and equanimity – the other horses respect her. She does not let herself be influenced by another horse’s fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows the right thing to do, based on her own internal signals, and she does it. She doesn’t need approval or permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. As a result, she is relaxed and at peace. She belongs to herself. She has an undefended heart. ~ with thanks to Martha Beck and Elizabeth Gilbert for this concept

The Re-Mothering process challenges assumptions about the way things are and can be for women, not just within the context of their ongoing or historic relationships with their own mothers (who sometimes model and foster ongoing disempowerment), but within the world at large.

“How do I get past the hatred and rage?”

How do I get past the sheer hatred and rage that I feel for my mother? I have gone no contact for the past two years but I still feel it every day. I don't want it to affect my life anymore. But I don't know how to get past it.⠀ ⠀ Dear you...⠀ ⠀ I love your question.⠀...

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What she didn’t know…

...prior to choosing to heal her relationship with her mother:⠀ ⠀ that it's what she wanted⠀ ⠀ that it was a choice⠀ ⠀ that it was possible⠀ ⠀ that her mother didn't have to participate (this was a big one...and such a relief)⠀ ⠀ that healthy boundaries were possible⠀...

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